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Helping Families Thrive Strength Cards

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You discover what you look for.

All families have strengths and an amazing capacity to face changes and challenges in the journey of life. Consciously connecting to strengths really helps to navigate this journey.  These cards are designed to support wellbeing, thriving and growth with positive communication to help families identify, access, and amplify their unique family strengths. 

Connecting to strengths helps to:

Develop warm emotional bonds; build a resilient, cohesive, joyful family;

and navigate predictable changes, unpredictable challenges, and curve balls that life can throw.

HFT Strength Cards evolved from Dr. Leonie White’s years of Clinical Practice, research and theory which has helped families discover and connect using strengths to grow healthy, thriving families making a difference to them and their communities.

They provide support and guidance to families to help reach their unique potential.

Helping Families Thrive Strength Cards is a set of cards designed to assist families of all types to build resilience, as they journey through this thing called life.

These cards will identify and amplify family strengths as a platform for growth and positive change.  They will help all families to identify their strengths, discover or rediscover their capabilities, build resilience and feel resourceful, skilled, and empowered with new possibilities.  These cards create powerful strength-based conversations that will help them shift towards

hope and possibility.

These cards can be used by families or in conjunction with a Helping Professional.

My passion is to support children, parents, and families, and to make a positive difference in the world as strong families build strong communities.  I hope your family enjoys exploring strengths as much as I have enjoyed creating this valuable resource for you.


Dr. Leonie White

The cards are available at Compass Seminars Australia

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Category: Fun and Enjoyment

We share activities and play together Canva Pro

We have fun, laughter and good times Unsplash +

We take time to really get to know each other Photo by Malvestida on Unsplash

Being different from each other is okay in our family Vecteezy Pro

We appreciate each other’s individual strengths, hopes, qualities and skills Vecteezy Pro

We balance time together as a family with individual time Canva Pro

Individuals in our family have their own interests Unsplash +

We don’t have to be the same to enjoy each other and have fun together Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

As parents we value having fun as a couple and as individuals Vecteezy Pro

We can do both child led and adult led games and activities Photo by Julietta Watson on Unsplash

As parents we coach our family in fun, fair play, including the ability to lose gracefully Canva Pro


Category: Belonging 

We have shared family values and we talk about them Canva Pro

We update our family values as our family grows and changes Vecteezy Pro

We have family traditions for important days like Christmas and milestones like graduations Vecteezy Pro

We have fun and special times together e.g., celebrations, days out, holidays, nature walks Natalya Zaritskaya on Unsplash We love each other Anna Kolosyuk on Unsplash

We show our love, affection and respect for each other Unsplash+

We work as a team Vecteezy Pro We do things for each other Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

We pull together in times of troubles Vecteezy Pro

We are committed to each other Vecteezy Pro

We look out for and take care of each other Photo by Rachel on Unsplash

We share family stories and memories Vecteezy Pro

We have small frequent rituals of connection e.g., morning greetings, hugs, kisses, tickles Photo by Gabe Pierce on Unsplash We share meals together Photo by Jimmy Dean on Unsplash


Category: Nurturing 

We can be “in the moment” together without distractions like technology or work Photo by Joice Kelly on Unsplash

We notice when family members need connection Photo by Miltiadis Fragkidis on Unsplash

We take everyday opportunities like driving or walking the dog for moments of quality connection Vecteezy Pro

We can connect spontaneously as well as for planned activities and events Unsplash+

We can have tricky conversations about things like sex, drugs, alcohol, money, and technology Unsplash+

We make our relationships a priority Vecteezy Pro

We accept all feelings in our family, even ‘tricky’ ones Vecteezy Pro

As parents we practice emotion coaching in our family, and connect to feelings before responding to behaviour Unsplash+ We do heartfelt apologies when relationships are harmed and find ways to reconnect Canva Pro

We are considerate of each other Photo by Mei-Ling Mirow on Unsplash

As parents we express positivity and catch our kids being good e.g., compliments, gratitude for chores, expressing pride Canva Pro

As parents, we spend even just 10 minutes a day with each child in an activity Photo by Joseph Gonzalez on Unsplash


Category: Communication 

We talk about our days and our interests Vecteezy Pro

We listen attentively to each other Vecteezy Pro

We express appreciation and gratitude in our family Canva Pro

We communicate openly and regularly about our joys, concerns, interests, and plans Vecteezy Pro

We communicate genuinely and congruently what we feel, whether it’s a positive or challenging time Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

As parents we help our kids name their feelings Vecteezy Pro

As parents we communicate instructions in a way that describes the desired outcome e.g. walk in the house NOT don’t run Vecteezy Pro

As parents we use communication to give children age/stage appropriate opportunities for choice Photo by Ben Wicks on Unsplash

We use validation and empathy and know when not to talk too much Vecteezy Pro

We talk about problems in ways that keep the problem separate from the person’s identity Canva Pro

As parents we avoid shamebased discipline Photo by Caleb Woods on Unsplash

We can talk about all experiences both “positive” and “negative” Canva Pro


Category: Problem Solving 

We help and encourage each other Vecteezy Pro

We can do apologies and forgiveness Unsplash +

We talk about issues and problem rather than bottle them up Canva Pro

We listen to understand and empathize, not to argue back

Canva Pro We can negotiate as a family Canva Pro

We are respectful, open, and connected in problem solving Canva Pro

We have a problem-solving strategy/process Canva Pro

We choose a good time to raise an issue and problem solve Canva Pro

We negotiate to take a break if needed e.g., if feelings get too high, or people are tired or hungry Canva Pro

We use “I-statements” when talking about problems Vecteezy Pro

We keep the 5:1 ratio in our family. Five positive interactions to one negative Canva Pro

We learn from facing problems, tough times, changes, and challenges Vecteezy Pro

We are resilient and adaptable Canva Pro


Category: Family Structure

As parents we share a clear, consistent family vision Vecteezy Pro

As parents we do same page parenting, and we talk together about the “big things” Photo by Ashley West Edwards on Unsplash

As parents we lead the family confidently in a fair, firm, loving, respectful way Canva Pro

As parents we are “in charge” of our family Vecteezy Pro

We have clear, fair family rules and expectations that we communicate and follow consistently Vecteezy Pro

We are aware of the roles different family members play and discuss this e.g., who does what in the family Vecteezy Pro

As parents our roles are balanced to share the load Canva Pro

All family members have responsibilities that match their ages and stages Unsplash +

As parents we look after ourselves as people so that we can be there for our family Etienne Girardet on Unsplash

As a family we are open to sharing dilemmas and asking for help from outside the family Vecteezy Pro

We value friendships and connections outside the family for all family members Photo by Simon Maage on Unsplash

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